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[quote=Anonymous]How is it that you prioritized separate bedrooms for you two, the two married adults when I see articles about how “young people can’t afford a home”? I seriously don’t understand this. 
I also don’t understand how you had two kids. G old school and start sharing a bed with your husband. Use the hormones to start liking each other again. 
I say this because while you may be low conflict now, you won’t be that way forever. You may wake up and want to talk to someone and see your spouse just not giving a crap and you’ll wonder why you decided to live this way.  Your kids may be being real bears and instead of giving you a hug, your spouse looks at you like you are the couch and ignores you. 
For those of you who say “kids don’t care” our kids will tell us to go on dates. It’s sweet. I’m a much better parent when I get my adultneeds met, physically and emotionally. If my husband wasn’t interested, I’d get divorced. He’s the one person on the planet I can go to bed with at least from a moral perspective, and I can do things with him, emotional things I can’t do with my friends. If that isn’t happening in the marriage, no need to be married. 
Think too about how you’d handle it if your husband found a girlfriend or other activity where he just refused to come home, or came home at a time where you couldn’t go do your thing. Let’s say he wants to play tennis and you want to play drums. You both have found groups you like, yet he just will not get his butt home so you can leave to go play drums. Sound good to you? That’s the problem with separate lives. For the person who said “no guarantee with divorce” at least you aren’t legally tied to that person anymore. You may have kids and need to work out who does what, but he won’t be paying for that awesome set of drum sticks that only matters to you and you won’t be paying for his tennis equipment. You will also be able to dip into resources that aren’t available to you as a married woman, I haven’t seen the divorce moms jump into help unless you are also divorced. To be fair, I’m only interested in helping married moms, we speak the same language of husbands and kids and we spend our time doing the same thing. That doesn’t seem to be true of the divorced moms who seem to despise men and can’t wait for the next drink fest. 
I’d work on the marriage, op. [/quote]

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