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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd ask:

1. Be compassionate
2. Be self-reflective and not defensive
3. Don't act like my drive for sex is a personal offense 
4. Do not be pouty about sex.
5. Read come as you are.
6. Acknowledge that since you are the one who wants change and wants me to do something, you need to put in just as much if not more effort into change as you expect me to.
7. Really and truly listen to what I have to say. 
8. Do not have an affair.
9. Accept that there are ups and downs in marriage, just like I have accepted that there are ups and downs in marriage and I don't always get what I want.
10. Be a good partner; be kind, show non-sexual interest in me, complement me, don't prioritize work over me, make an effort to spend time with me. 
11. If the situation persists for a long time (maybe six months if there were no obvious reasons for the lack of interest, but much longer if there were things like depression, medical issues, or little exhausting kids around), ask for a hall pass or an open marriage.

DH already knows if he wants a divorce he is free to do it and I won't stop him. We have kids so I wouldn't want that, but I'd rather him ask for a divorce that then him be pouty and miserable and demanding about sex for an extended period of time. [/quote]

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