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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound like my mother, always expecting back but never giving what matters. Maybe someone needs to tell you that you are at fault. No child has to do anything to make you happy, what did you do? dis you spend time with her when she ws little, do you know what she likes the most? her favorite books growing up? or you were always focusing on you. As adults sometimes we just can't help it but there is a lot of resentment. [/quote]

This is me, exactly.  My mother does not have a good relationship with me or my brother.  It is better, and I think she has put in a lot of effort, but still, she doesn't really know us and doesn't understand how our childhood has impacted the relationship we have now.  Her response, "Get over it."  Easy to say, but it doesn't really feel like she fully understands how my brother and I feel.  We both moved away from home, which she likes to make us feel guilty about.  So she was never there as a parent (we were not spoiled by money, we had none) and now she thinks we should just magically forget that and she thinks we should want to be around her.  She doesn't know what foods I liked/disliked as a child.  She doesn't know what books I liked.

Good luck OP.  I agree about just giving her some space.  Let her show you she can do it on her own.  Maybe she just needs to be given the opportunity to prove she doesn't need you.  Be a proud parent, realize all the things you did right.  Did she go to college?  Does he have a job?  You said she got married.  These things are most likely (even in some way) related to your actions.[/quote]

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