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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do help my teens with outing expenses sometimes, on a case by case basis. They both have jobs and a small allowance, but everything is ridiculously expensive these days. They went to the zoo a couple weeks ago with a group of friends and would not have gone had they had to spend the money, were debating about it, so I offered. My reasoning is I want them to have social opportunities. I missed out on so much due to having no money as a teen/young adult despite working, and I don't want them to be limited the way I was.[/quote]

Exactly this. I was poor growing up and I missed out on a lot. If my kids are doing their part in school and around the house and aren’t asking for unreasonable amounts of money, I’m happy to pay for the movie ticket or whatnot. If they start in on a big fast food/starbucks habit, that’s on them. It’s a case basis. I realize that inconsistency may not work for other families, but so far it’s worked for us.[/quote]

+2 same here. I really don’t want them missing out on social opportunities. My kids really don’t ask for that much and aren’t obsessed with having designer clothes or Stanley Tumblr or anything like that so I am happy to give them money for a movie or ice-skating. Especially important for my son who took a long time to recover from the social isolation and other bumps in the road during Covid. My son is now old enough for a part-time job but he is an athlete so during the school year he doesn’t have time. This summer I’m expecting him to work part time and earn some spending money for during the school year but I’m trying to keep my expectations realistic, since he will still be doing his sport a lot.

I was also poor growing up and missed out on a lot. My parents would give my brothers spending money but not me. I worked through high school and mostly used the money to pay for school lunches, thrift store clothes, and go to $1 movies with other poor kids. We lived in an affluent area and it really affected my self esteem now that I look back on it, like I didn’t really believe I deserved to have anything nice. I still have to work on that for myself. Some days I just want to pinch myself because I can’t believe I’ve come this far and I’m able to provide such a better life for my kids.[/quote]

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