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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If someone is going to actually "outsource child raising".  If they are going to raise their child, with the support of a live in nanny to provide coverage when they work, that's totally fine.  
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Their work demands long hours and global travel for their public health research projects.[/quote]

When would you spend time with the child? Why have a child. You’re going to go through IVF and a surrogate so your nanny can raise your child 100% while you work? That’s the plan. People (selfishly in my opinion) do this all the time but *usually* there is more balance if there is a spouse - even if both travel. The child will bond to the nanny. If you’re gone all the time the nanny is going to be their person. [/quote]

You shouldn't purposely have a child if you are not all in with parenting.  The term outsource child rearing shouldn't be in your vocabulary.  Outsource house chores but you shouldnt outsource child rearing.  Your career will need to go to the back burner.   I'm not saying be a sahm but you have to mostly prioritize your child. The reality is people have to work to earn a living but if your prioority isnt your child and this is an intentional decision why do that?  Your village can help, your nanny should help but if your child is spending more than  50% of their time with a non related nanny why have a kids?

Why don't you consider mentoring OP?  It's a great opportunity and you will make a difference.[/quote]

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