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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dated 2.5 years. One year was long distance. So many surprises. He lied about dealbreakers. No way I could have known in advance. Divorced after 10 years of marriage. I wanted a divorce immediately, but everybody told me to wait, which is my biggest regret —not getting out immediately, when true colors were finally shown.[/quote]

I want to know about then surprises and lies and dealbreakers ...[/quote]

That he believed in God.
That he would go to church once a month. 
That we would only move twice. 
[b]That not having kids is what he wanted (my dealbreaker is that I would not have kids with him because of certain things)[/b]
That he would I be supportive of my starting a business while I worked full time.

Other surprises:
[b]We did not have sex after we were married except when he decided he changed his mind about kids[/b]

He was on the computer every night as soon as he was done with work

We barely spoke

Divorce threats for years for no reason

I was not allowed to go to the grocery store because he wanted to control food coming into the house.
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NP. Re: the bold above -- please tell us you did not get pregnant by this lying lunatic. Was he just without any libido, or was he punitively withholding sex from you in hopes you would cave and let him get you knocked up just out of desperation to have sex?? Whatever was going on about sex and kids, it was unhealthy and warped on his side. Wow. [/quote]

Low T. Yes, he forced a pregnancy when I got tired of saying no once. He admitted to what he was doing. Had an accident one other time years later. No sex between the conceptions or after. Married a decade. Stayed for kids until I could not stay any longer. [/quote]

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