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[quote=Anonymous]Met as freshman in college (19), married at 29 after an 8 month engagement. Our kids were born 5 years and 9 years after we married. Now married 15 years. I think the thing that was the hardest / biggest surprise was that I’d always envisioned moving out of our tiny apartment and away from our crappy budget once he finished his (very long) PhD because our studio was the only thing I wasn’t loving about DC. He applied to and got his “dream job” (now does something else) in another state. I was surprised how angry I was and wonder if I would have stayed with him if we didn’t have our first kid at the time. I also feel like we’ve never aged up well - I still love hanging out with him and we have a good sex life and a lot of fun, but we’re not very good at juggling the realities of meal planning and carpooling and laundry etc. The disorder tends to bother me more than him. Extended family dynamics have changed as our parents have aged in ways that are too. And I wish now in our 40s I could solve his snoring. I am not surprised (or maybe pleasantly surprised) but what a playful dad he is and I feel like our values generally align well. Oh - we didn’t live together but spent most nights at one person’s home or the other. Actually, after we got married his lease had another month and I had work travel so he just stayed in his apartment and moved when his lease ended, so we didn’t live together the first month we were married![/quote]

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