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[quote=Anonymous]There is no requirement, but I think you do need to make sure you don't enable. So if a brother cannot manage his finances and you want to help I would not throw money at him directly. I might offer to pay for a class or an advisor and if he was say overwhelmed with medical bills, I might offer to pay that. If a sibling got a job, but could not afford a car and the bus ride was an hour and a half, then I would help buy a car. My husband fell into the trap of just giving money and trusting and felt pretty used because they ended up just buying frivolous things and asking for more. They bought themselves we would not buy because we were thrifty and liked to have a big safety net and save for our kids' college. That said, there is no obligation, but always be focused on giving a needed boost or leveling the playing field NOT on enabling dysfunction and rewarding poor habits.[/quote]
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