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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wonder about these confident posters who do not doubt themselves. Are you like this in general? Do you find most people would agree with that assessment? What were your parents like?
I'm a little jealous and want to know what it's like not to second guess
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I'm a very self-reflective person, but at my core, I'm a "satisficer" vs. an "optimizer".  These are economic terms that describe how people purchase things... do you have a minimum criteria that, when met, you make a purchase?  Or do you spend a ton of time researching and finding the absolute best product before purchasing?

I feel like there is a similar dichotomy with parenting.  I hold myself to a standard, but it's not the highest standard.  I'm not in the business of optimization here, and beating myself up when I fail to live up to this perfect ideal.

I can do this because I actually think that my kids are better off because of this attitude.  It makes me calmer, less anxious etc, and I'm not passing on to them that we should aim for perfection.[/quote]

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