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[quote=Anonymous]When I was in my late teens I dated a guy whose whole family was very close and spent lots of time together. I was crazy about the family as much as the guy, because my own was not like that and I longed for happy family togetherness.

We spent a lot of time with his brother and SIL, who I really looked up to. They lived in a deceased grandparent's house they'd bought and renovated, which was only a half mile away from the family camp on the pond, which his parents decided a few years later to winterize and move into full time.

When it was still a camp the SIL made a comment or two during my time around the family about how her in laws would just pop in whenever they wanted to do laundry and get a hot shower - basically they were like extra roommates who came in and out at will.

I broke up with the guy and actually was heartbroken over him for a lot of years, but I later learned that when brother and SIL finally had kids, they moved across country when the kids were still in grade/middle school. They had a home that was paid for and both had good jobs, so it wasn't because of a career opportunity that they just couldn't pass up.

It was obvious to me that the MIL I would have ended up with was the kind of answered prayer you end up crying over.

The idea of tight families who are always happy for an unannounced visit sounds just delightful - but few family are that tight and the reason the stereotypes of MILs are so abundant is because lots of women are controlling and unkind to their children in law, to the point that they drive them away to the other side of the continent. I have no doubt that many families on this board are in the exact same situation.  [/quote]

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