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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Because she loves him. Because it would bring her joy to see him open it. Because it’s normal if you live close for these little interactions to happen without them being a big deal.[/quote]
No, this is not normal. “Love” is just sending a gift and knowing it will be enjoyed. Self-centeredness is holding a gift hostage until you can bear witness. [/quote]

This. I have family members like this and I used to go along to get along. They make every gift into an ordeal whether it's dramatics over strings they never disclosed, the child not even excited enough, a thank you note not being enough or needing there to be grand gift giving with their own special day rather than at an event they are invited to. They still pulled this when my husband was very ill and could no longer cater to everyone. Everything was "me,me,me." That was when we finally decided ENOUGH. A gift is not supposed to drive us bonkers, especially when we had enough stress.When the 2 worst offenders continued to be annoying even with boundaries we made a major one NO GIFTS. They ignored it and still tried to make many demands, but I was too busy with managing Dr. appointments and emergencies to respond. Finally they stopped completely. So much better. They still periodically try to drag us in or drag our kids in and they can't stand the theatrics either so they have no problem saying they don't want anything. Some people can just give a gift, enjoy a "thank you" and let it go, other people use it to try to engage in some big ol dysfunctional dance of crazy.[/quote]

So stop criticizing and posting stuff like this which just continues to feed into your obsession.  They are old.  SHOW SOME CHARITY! What is wrong with you?  You will be there some day?[/quote]

+1 If you're enjoying being all alone during your time of trouble, you're the one with the "disorder."[/quote]

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