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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thank you. We have always paid her when she traveled, but it also never happened when we needed her. We don’t take months off from work. DH has 4 weeks total and I work from home. In the summer I take the kids to my home country (not same as nanny) and between my parents and summer camps I am able to work from there. That is why we don’t need the nanny for 2.5 months in the summer. We are not super wealthy either and have been thinking about reducing the hours we pay our nanny, but haven’t done so for fear she would leave us for FT employment.

I understand that there are cultural differences at play here; I would never ask 1 month off to bury my parents.

She has not asked for paid leave, but I think she assumes we will pay her since we have always done that when she (and we) traveled even for extended time.

I think I will tell her we can’t afford to pay for a replacement on top of her salary and she can take 1 week off paid and the rest without pay.

She has already taken more than 10 days off since the year started.[/quote]

She's already had 10 days off this year? There have only been 13 working days so far this year. [/quote]

OP here and yes. As I said, mom very sick and nanny took almost every day off. She is also not working this Monday which would be her 10th day off:[/quote]

Almost every day? Now I'm confused. Her mom wasn't overseas when she died? It sounded like she lived outside the US.[/quote]

No, mom lived in a city nearby (2 hours away). She was at the hospital and nanny went twice (or theee times) since the new year. Each time she would stay several days with her mom. This past week nanny was with the mom and then mom passed away. Nanny wants to bring her mom to her home country to be buried there in 2 weeks.

So I am left with finding a new nanny or flying my parents here. My parents can probably come, but they are still working (a little), have a dog, have other business they need to take care of so it’s not a sure thing.[/quote]

They have 2 weeks to figure out what to do with the dog and any other business. Buy the tickets now. You are not expected to pay the nanny while she is out on leave for a month. The nanny knows this. The woman’s mother just died. Stop judging her for needed time off to bury her in another country. If a month is too long for your parents, ask the nanny about taking 3 weeks. That’s fair and reasonable. [/quote]

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