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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Funerals are about the living, not the dead person. [/b]You might go to express condolences if you know/care about survivors. There might be other people there you like and could spend time with. Or you could send a card and wake up with suspiciously covid-like symptoms the day of the event. [/quote]
In general, that’s how I look at it but there can be more extreme/definitive circumstances. I have an uncle I’m estranged from because of how he abused his immediate family (that they all hid from us for many years 😔 ).  I refuse to be in the same room with him while living and won’t stoop to gloat in public over his passing so I will not attend his funeral. The entire family knows my position on it so I have no explaining to do. I am close with his son/my cousin and make arrangements to catch up with him and his lovely wife whenever they return home…and will do the same with them when that time comes too.

Make a decision, OP, and be able to live with it (and have no guilt either way). Funerals aren’t RSVP so no need to provide an excuse. Just go. Or don’t. [/quote]

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