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Older than most on this board, and as the old woman, chiming in to say yes, this was inappropriate in a big way. He may never do it again; he may have had too much to drink (which is NOT an excuse but only an explanation); he may even not [i]think[/i] of it as hitting on you, may be a touchy-feely-huggy guy ....BUT it's still a red flag.

A worse one, too, because he'd already made you into an emotional confidante about his divorce, OP. He's not your old friend. He's [i]a parent you really only know through your kid[/i]. His making you into a confidante on whom he can pour thoughts and feelings about his divorce was [i]inappropriate even before the thigh touching[/i].

Do not be where you're alone with him, and "alone" includes conversations at the sidelines of the kids' activity or conversations in restaurants where the group's there but he's trying to chat to you in asides. Keep your kid and his kid friends, because the kid likely needs support and friendship amid the divorce, but arrange any meet-ups through the mom.

Tell your DH what happened, for sure, if you have not already. Keep it direct and simple and note that the guy has been talking about the divorce and that this blindsided you. Tell DH (before he can ask it) that you are not going to listen to any more of the guy's divorce talk and will have DH do more of the activity stuff with your child. Note that if other parents at the travel event saw this guy touch you, it may get back to your DH and you want him to hear if from you, not from someone else. [/quote]

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