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[quote=Anonymous]OP,

Your child is reaching an age where in the normal course of things, there will be a lot of social disappointments and maybe even mean girl behavior. I'd try to get a hold of your own social anxiety before then so you can support her in being resilient and not buffeted by randos.

Think of this as a heads up re: some work to do. And that your initial impulse was to impulsively, what, lash out? Which would have made things exponentially worse for your DD and you re: team dynamics. The note was not intended as a personal slight. And it was not mean. The future holds both, have you seen Mean Girls?

Learn to be more resilient and emotionally regulated yourself re: these things, maybe some DBT sessions, so you can model that for your kids. Your DD sounds great. Not everyone will be a fan in life, and that's ok, AND that's not even what happened here.

There will be parties she's not invited to, friends who drop her to social climb, friends who gossip or are mean at school or later at work. That's life. Help her focus on getting satisfaction from the job she does, and knowing she might not get the same back in return, reason doesn't matter. [/quote]

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