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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is the word “fight” in quotation marks? A fight suggests hostilities on both sides so it would be helpful to know what YOU said and did too before accepting at face value your vague complaints about him being mean or “dysregulated” [sic].[/quote]

Because it's so far out of bounds for fight in my view.  It was more like an abusive emotional attack. We were having an ordinary level disagreement.  I had asked if he needed a break from the kids or how I could help, before things escalated. Assume massive emotional dysregulation on his part for purposes of advice.[/quote]

You ARE going to have to share details for us to assess this because right now all you are doing is offering vague descriptions of his behavior and making weird misspelled clinical diagnoses and positioning yourself as victim when there was obviously a conflict, which points to a dynamic that needs to be examined. He very well may be abusive but it’s still a dynamic and it would be useful to know what role you play in that dynamic.

What, specifically, was the “fight” about and what happened?
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OP, don't engage with this poster. They are either operating out of total ignorance or bad faith.[/quote]

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