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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]According to the CDC growth percentile calculator, she is not petite. Given what you've told us, she is somewhere between the 45th and 75th percentile for height, depending on when her birthday falls. This makes her average height. [b]It's possible that she's taking her cues from you regarding how she feels about her height, since you believe she is so small.[/b]

https://www.infantchart.com/child/childrenstatureage.php[/quote]

My older DD’s best friend has always been short-ish (ended up 5’1”ish- girls are now freshmen in HS). My own DD was always on the short side as well. No big deal. The BFF’s mom has always been super sensitive about her DD’s height and was always bringing it up and putting ideas into her DD’s head etc. Anytime there was any type of minor social issue at school or her DD seemed quiet after school or similar,  she’d assume “Larla are kids picking on you about your height?!”. The mom even checked with me a few times during elementary to ask if my DD had mentioned anyone picking on the girl about her height etc. My DD was completely baffled by the whole thing (no one at school had ever teased either of them about their heights). The mom had a serious complex/obsession over it. I don’t think the DD would’ve thought much about her height all if mom hadn’t been so obsessed with the issue. It was really strange. [/quote]

OP here - I have never said this to my daughter at all. Ever.  I actually have never thought this.  It is truly only coming up now because her younger siblings are getting taller than her.  So she sees it daily, in her face.  My youngest son (3 years old) is 99th percentile and huge.  So its something that everyone comments on (literally everyone who sees him says something), so she seems to notice that she is not as tall as her siblings who are younger than her. [/quote]

Right, but as a PP said, your DD is average height, not petite. Your other two children are tall. It's very unlikely that "all" of her friends are bigger than her, which is what you led with in your OP. She's mature enough to understand at age 9 that you can't control genetics, and a tall sibling who is very close in age may end up taller than her. That sounds like a sibling dynamics issue, not a overall body image issue. Check the extremist talk ("eeeeveryone else is taller than me!") and work on the sibling issue.[/quote]

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