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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Continue to invite but make the kids pay their own way to things like movies etc if it’s not reciprocated. Also for things like sleepovers and hangouts, if you say no a little more often you might find that suddenly they host some as often these things are kid driven - they aren’t asking their parents bc your house is better.

My daughter is 16 and has had a good friend since 6th grade who could host and do more but only does when I say no to our house (repeatedly) or I ask her for money. Which I’ve started doing as I think her dad gives her money for activities (he’s a single dad but well off enough) that she just keeps unless I demand she cover herself. It’s very entitled behavior (can you tell I’m a bit fed up with this girl? Lol).

If these other kids/parents haven’t offered to pay or host, you shouldn’t feel bad for one second asking them to contribute. The other parents have already shown manners aren’t their first concern. You don’t have to end the activities, just the bankrolling. [/quote]

I wouldn’t be so quick to say the other parents have bad manners.  They may not even know that they need to host if you’re always offering.  That’s like one kid in DD’s friend group who says his mom makes him get rides from so many people, and then later in a group chat, the mom tells me and the other moms that she’s totally available to drive the group to an outing.  Meanwhile the kid was saying their mom wasn’t available.  [/quote]

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