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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Therapist here: I'm sorry you are experiencing this. What is your question? Whether you should meet alone with the counselor or why he wants to meet alone with you? Do you have your own therapist? You need one and a lawyer.  My guess is the therapist is going to try and assess your safety to see if there is physical abuse in the marriage or any danger to the children. [/quote]

Thanks for responding.

I do have my own therapist. She is great and helped me realize how bad the situation was — I was minimizing as a coping mechanism. I had a lawyer due to the legal issues. When we started therapy again we agreed to withdraw our retainers. I suspect he has retained his and that’s why he doesn’t want me to see the statement.

I do not feel that I or the kids are in physical danger. But there is obviously emotional abuse.

What I’m confused about is that my therapist told me to speak up in therapy. When I do, I get the impression that this therapist thinks it’s a high conflict couple situation. I feel frustrated that I might not be conveying the depth of my husband’s manipulation because he’s very convincing and can put on a good emotional show of being a victim. I guess I could give some examples or something.

Mostly I’m just exhausted and maybe it comes across that I don’t have any compassion or patience left for his emotional needs at this point.[/quote]

You need the absolute best lawyer who will be tough as nails during your divorce from this lunatic. I don't know what to tell you about the therapist. They asked to meet with you alone so I'd go and let them drive the conversation. If you have not already learned the art of less is more, now is the time to embrace that philosophy. Be aware that all of the records can be subpoenaed for court. Whether that happens is uncertain but now is not the time to go into the joint therapist and let them drag up your spouse's accusations against you.

There is no saving this and you should not try.[/quote]

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