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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If she hasnt specifically mentioned that she plans to donate the eggs she had frozen, then it’s very presumptuous of you to assume they are available for the asking. 
Imagine if this were vehicles instead of eggs. If your sister has four cars and she drives two but kept two in the garage, you wouldn’t ask her if you could have one or buy one, would you??? No, of course not. Now—if she said “I’m about to go sell one of my cars that’s been in the garage” and you wanted to be considered as a potential buyer, then it makes sense to speak up. Common sense.
And that’s just cars.
With eggs, it’s a lot more emotional and they are genetically connected. 
This is a bad idea, OP.

If you really feel the need to ask, at least ask as a hypothetical like “have you ever considered egg donation?” Or “someone asked the other day if I had ever asked you about being a donor and I told them we’d never talked about it. Do you think it’s weird crust we haven’t talked about that before?” Then if she doesn’t take the cue to ask more questions or offer, you will know she doesn’t want any part of this. Let her take the graceful exit without feeling like you’ve cornered her.[/quote]

Y’all are so weird. I’d totally ask my brother about buying one of the cars hanging out in his garage!

OP, I never discussed infertility with my in laws,  but after we’d been married several years, my sister in law made it known to me through family members I’m closer to that she’d be willing to carry a baby for us. (She had 4.) Anyway, our issue wasn’t getting staying pregnant, but getting pregnant. Regardless, she had no idea what it was, but made it known to me what she’d been thinking about and what she was willing to do. Frankly, I really appreciated that. And I appreciated that it was indirectly done.

I agree about broaching the subject with your mom or someone else. You might be pleasantly surprised.[/quote]

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