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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t have a lot of money. It’s not that I’m not responsible, I’m extremely into saving. However, after a nasty divorce from a drug addicted loser, I had to pay off a lot of debt that was left for me, pay for rent in Montgomery County, and generally just survive. I’m happy with everything I’ve accomplished BUT feeling so guilty about the limited options my DD has for college. While all her friends are excitedly making plans for next year, mine is in tears that she can’t go to her dream schools.

I recognize that it’s a first world problem and she will still be able to go to an in state college, but I do feel sad that she doesn’t get to live her dream of going out of state to a big rah rah school.

Just needed to vent about my reality. Anyone else dealing with the same?[/quote]

If your daughter gets to go to Maryland, I'm sure she'll be able to get over her disappointment.

I live in flyover country 10 driving hours away from College Park, and at a recent school board meeting, a young grad who now attends UMD came to speak to the board about how wonderful it was and how many opportunities she had been afforded there.  She was recently recognized as a top scholar in her college and that came with a recognition award for her most influential high school teacher.  Also a scholarship for a future student to attend UMD.  She was truly happy to be attending and to bring back the good word (she had some great internships already).  For the ranking-obsessed, I'm sure she could have gone in-state to a higher-ranked school but it didn't have the exact major she wanted.

Does your daughter's local option have the major she wants?  This is way more important than rah rah culture.

Also, let's get real about the rah rah partying that goes on around sports games.  Good fun can be had in the stands at lots of schools, even if the team's not great.  Game weekends are mainly an excuse to get plastered.  College students don't even really need sports schedules to pull that off.  Partying finds a way.

Make sure your daughter has a plan for what extracurriculars she will join once she gets to college.  She should do some activities just in case her roommate or dorm is a dud.  Once she gets to know people she should be fine.

If that doesn't work, consider allowing her to transfer for sophomore year and take out student loans.  Perhaps you could look into her becoming emancipated if you and her father cannot contribute significantly.

It's a big accomplishment just to parent a kid to 18.  Don't beat yourself up.  [/quote]

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