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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The thing about 2/2/5 is it's inconsistent as to days of the week. Some children do better with a schedule they can more easily understand, or there are logistical reasons to have them always in a certain home on a certain day of the week.

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It's not inconsistent. Ex. Dc with Dad Mon/Tues, Dc with Mom Wed/Thu, rotate Fri Sat Sun. [/quote]

[b]Right, so Fri Sat Sun are inconsistent[/b]. Some kids or families find this hard, others don't.

OP, ask yourself if you would like to live on this schedule yourself. Would you find it burdensome, even if someone else packed your suitcase for you?[/quote]

No, they are not inconsistent. One with Dad, one with Mom, repeat. And no suitcase needed-you live with your mother and your father and have needed items.

OP's not asking for your permission to divorce.[/quote]

They are not consistent because the child has to alternate and consistently shuffle around. Of course we know OP does not need anyone's permission for divorce, but it is foolish to pretend that it won't be very damaging to the child. If the parents choose to have the child shuffle between two homes, then they are not choosing what is best for the child. They don't need anyone's permission, but should own up to their choice.[/quote]

Quite a bit of evidence proves that kids do best in divorce when they get to keep being with both parents. I guess you would rather relegate one-probably Dad-to be the one the child 'visits'. My dc live with their parents and see them both nearly daily. But if you prefer to cut Dad (most likely) out-you should own up to your choice.[/quote]

You like to think they live with each parent, but your children might feel like they live nowhere and visit each. But you're so hostile that they'll never feel like they can tell you how they really feel.[/quote]

Well, I'm going to take the word of my wonderful children over you, internet stranger![/quote]

Okay. Just something to think about. Not being allowed to have negative opinions about divorce and custody is a common theme for ACOD, and you can listen to us or you can ignore us. It's up to you.[/quote]

I'm not sure why you're referring to yourself in the plural, but you may want to speak to your doctor about that.[/quote]

ACOD stands for Adult Child of Divorce and there are many of us. Each with our own unique experience and perspective, to be sure, but there are certain common threads. One common thread is divorced parents' denial of any negative impact on the children, their pressure on their children to express positive feedback, and their anger and hostility when any negative opinions are expressed. Ask yourself if you're reacting that way.[/quote]

I'm not reacting that way, thanks for your input! My dc are happy and have good relationships with both parents, and this is noted by their therapist and school counselors. The drop in tension and anger in the family after the divorce has been good for all of us. I think being able to coparent effectively is a big factor to it.[/quote]

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