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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tbh I don’t think it’s the kids. It’s however their parents have taught them to view you over the years. [/quote]

Yes, that sadly might be true. My brother married young and built a family. I have not found anyone. I think they disapprove and assume I live a wild lifestyle when it's really not that way at all. I work, I hang out with my dog, I have a few friends. 
Unfortunately, several of my single friends have noted that they feel isolated by the rest of their family because they're unmarried. The sad thing is that most of us did want to marry and have kids, but it just didn't happen, and it adds insult to injury to cut us out socially. 
Luckily this hasn't effected my relationship with my parents. We're really close. [/quote]

I’m sorry, OP. You seem like a truly nice person. It’s wonderful that you love your family.  Hopefully at least one or two of the kids will appreciate you as they age.  As a twenty something, both my DH and I were close with extended relatives on both sides.  This might happen because being a real adult can be tough and you need encouragement and someone to listen.

Also I agree that this is largely due to the parents. [b] I hate the American way of only seeing immediate family as real family.[/b]  [/quote]

You're wrong about this. Myself and the majority of LGBTQ friends have had to create our own families. I don't know who you talk to, but they don't speak for all americans. Lots of us have chosen family. [/quote]

I come from a dysfunctional family and have had to build my own as an adult, though I am heterosexual I have numerous friends who are LGBTQ and I know exactly what you mean.

I think however that the poster you are replying to was talking about the American focus on the nuclear family - parents and their kids - versus focusing more on extended family, cousins et al.

I think that focus is more evident in WASPy families, as I have known families from other cultures - AA, Latino/Hispanic, and southern European who are more close knitted and where cousins are seen more like extra siblings - but this happens more of course when families all live in close proximity.[/quote]

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