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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree OP. As an immigrant, it’s shocking to me how many Americans seem to hate their families. [/quote]

There are cultural norms about supporting families, helping parents with young kids, "it takes a village"-style community structures, and other forms of social support in other cultures [b]that the US doesn't have and it shows[/b].

It's not a child's job to unfsck that. You're not required to love people who abused you just because someone else's better-structured culture says family is important.

Healthy family relationships are a two-way street, at least. And honestly? That's not enough for families with kids. It takes a community effort to raise a child, and the US went the way of stand-alone "every man for himself" culture.[/quote]

We had all that as a culture, but threw them away.  And most of the people on this forum are the ones who promote "every man for himself" even down to within the nuclear family when you "drop the rope."  Support in the community came from living in the same town as your family and life-long friends.  It came from stay-at-home moms who could run clubs and activities for kids, and be there for neighborhood kids who were playing outside.  It came from churches and other fraternal organizations which "sophisticated" people have dropped.  Even the attitudes here toward in-laws, etc. are shocking, but then people complain about how they "don't have support" when they want a baby-sitter.  It is interesting that so many people unhappy with their own upbringings are the ones flocking to the "Family Relationships" forum.[/quote]

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