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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ghosting is a d__k move. That's the general consensus and I agree. Sometimes it's the easiest option though. I'm guilty of ghosting on occasion but I've also tried being upfront about not being interested any longer and it's dragged things out unnecessarily. Getting responses like this sometimes makes it seem like ghosting is actually preferred:

What happened? 
I thought we hit it off?
Is there someone else? 
I think we can still be friends.
We should try once more.

Not to mention the anger/insults that can come with letting someone down easy

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Well, obv. it's not ghosting, but shutting harassing or rude behavior down, in the circumstances you identify. And it is appropriate. [/quote]

In some situations, it's that. But it's rare that I've ever told someone I went on a few days with that I'm not interested and they just say ok. There's always questioning, anger, hurt or something at the (perceived?) rejection.[/quote]

Woman here - it’s better not to invite her further than saying you are not interested. The latter is demeaning regardless how it’s phrased. She likely feels lack of spark. I never follow up with men when they stop inviting, it speaks for itself and I’m not a child to be explained. 
When men want to see me after date 2 and I don’t feel the spark I just tell I’m busy with something 
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Probably the best solution after 2 dates. No need for a big talk. But don't want to be rude either. Trust they pick up on social clues like "I'm busy" and not following up with options. Done. Chemistry wasn't there. Easy peasy. Every healthy person will check out immediately with that kind of exchange.[/quote]

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