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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I completely understand!  It’s crazy how much effort it takes to “run a household” today. Was it always like this?  Are our lifestyles inadvertently making it more difficult to be happy and successful?

(As an aside, I quit my job last year to become a stay at home mom.  For 11 month, I did feel more in control, less stressed and happier overall.  Then last month I was diagnosed with cancer. At age 41. Ain’t that something.)[/quote]

I have the same questions about the past. Like when and why did it get so hard? I’ve asked my dad about what it was like when we were kids. In my family, my mom stayed home but she also had severe mental health challenges and wasn’t a very effective partner or parent. I remember my dad working all day and then coming home and doing everything. Plus he was constantly taking us camping, sledding, hiking, swimming, etc. I asked him when he had downtime and he said his work was kind of a respite for him.

So I think work used to be a lot less demanding. I mean think about it-in the 90s they were just starting to use computers and email. Things were just slower back then.[/quote]
Dp.. also, when I was younger, it was a lot easier to parent. We didn't have so many activities, books on what you should or shouldn't do that made you feel like you couldn't live up to being a good parent. I watched a sh!t ton of tv (no cable).  I never expected my parents to play with me, and they never did. They were too busy working, and for my mom, the added work of cleaning the house and cooking.

When my kids were younger, I felt obligated to play board games with them, which I hate.  I took them to the park all the time. My parents never took me to the park. My siblings and I went on our own.   And I went through the college app process myself. Zero help from parents.

I'm not saying I want to parent like them, but it was certainly easier in many ways for the older generation to parent. There was less expectation of so much involvement and enrichment.[/quote]

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