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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You certainly don't need to be cooking breakfast or lunch for your 11-13yo kids or your DH - they can cook themselves something simple or help themselves to cereal and sandwiches.  These meals are self-serve in my house.

Dinner I would suggest a meal rotation - each week you cook 2 nights, DH cooks 2 nights, kids cook 1 night (they are old enough to make breakfast for dinner, grilled cheese/tomato soup/bagged salad, other simple meals), and the other 2 nights you either get takeout or have leftovers. [/quote]

I was in OP’s shoes and I tried the advice in the last paragraph. It didn’t work at all. It just made me more upset because it was that much more effort I was expending to try to do something good for my kids and husband and I wish I hadn’t tried it. But I know it works for a lot of people.

I suspect that if OP made dinner 100% her husbands responsibility, the kids would step up more. I tried so hard to do all the right things to slowly get my kids to take care of themselves more, and there was no lasting change. When I just gave up and dumped that responsibility on my husband, it worked and now the kids are more autonomous. I think it’s really hard for kids and a husband to adjust when they just expect the mom to do certain things because that is how it has always been done. And it has been so nice for me, not just to no longer have to worry about those things but also no longer having to get pushback about it. [/quote]

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