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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your mother did the best she could at the time. You cannot base your happiness now on asking other people to deliver more than they can. She doesn't want to rehash the past. She can't go back and change what happened, and she isn't in a place to fill your emotional needs now. You need to work on yourself now, that is the only thing you can change.[/quote]

I work myself and start healing myself by accepting that she doesn’t love me? Or loves me a little but not enough? Is that what you mean? I want to accept the truth, I just don’t know what the truth is, I think a lot of my internal struggles come from this confusion. [/quote]

Your premise is wrong. Love can exist without care. She did not take care of you in that moment you remember, but it does not mean she has less love for you than you think. Can you understand this?

Also, whining and crying will push away a lot of people. She probably wants to scream at you when you do that, and is holding it together just enough to give you a rather brusque answer.  The more you insist, the less you'll get, because frankly it's ANNOYING.

This is why I try to be as open and honest as I can with my teens when they complain, because I know it will get worse if my first answer isn't sincere and they feel they have to come back for round 2. One or both of us will get annoyed. For whatever reason, you feel your mother wasn't fully communicative, and she probably feels you're like nails on chalkboard with your perseverating. You'd better drop it, it's not going to get better.

But none of this means she doesn't love you, or loves you less.
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