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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m guessing you are more unhappy about it than she is. If I was balancing career, marriage, and kids and my mom wanted to talk to me every day, often complaining about how far away I lived, that would stress me out too. She may be exaggerating to appease you since you seem obsessed with this. She also may be just stressed like most dual-earning households with young kids.

My parents moved close to me (actually moved to be close to my children, let’s be honest) and it’s more work and more stress for me. I still use after school care, baby sitters, camps, etc. but now I have to constantly manage my mother’s feeling and judgement about how I prioritize my time or live my life. [/quote]

I don’t “often complain.” Their geography is the result of being status seeking workaholics who believe their specific job titles in a specific city at this point in time gives them [more] status and positions them for the next rung up the ladder they’re chasing. When in fact they could work anywhere and make the same great money near us or near his parents. Whatever the case, they’ve isolated themselves and our grandchild and it just all seems entirely pointless. The broader point for this forum is I know they’re not alone. This is the frequently reality of “marry well.” I’m sharing to peal back the alleged happy and high status patina of “marrying well.”[/quote]

This isn’t about marrying well it’s about their decision to prioritize their careers in a way that you disparage (by calling them “workaholics”).  If she didn’t want to do this, she wouldn’t - she isn’t a victim of her life choices but the architect of them.[/quote]

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