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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Finish your homework and go to bed. And no more drinking!!![/quote]

I’m not sure if this is a slam but I’m 25 and a nurse. Just looking for honest input on what I should do to make this fair. I love my son and he comes first but I need to have my own freedom and independence in the same way as he does. I feel I have been fair with the boundaries and communicated very well.[/quote]

You have a child now.  Your child needs to come first, for you and your spouse.  You both need to grow up.  I understand the need to have time away, but do something else other than getting drunk.  But you should really wait a bit until the baby is older unless you have responsible family who could watch the baby for a couple hours.  Go to a movie, book club, gym, walk, art class, etc.  See if a family member can babysit occasionally (until baby older and you can hire a babysitter) and you can go out for the occasional date night.  My husband and I (married 10+ years) take turns on who plans the date nights so we each get to do what we want, then some we plan together.  Makes it fun.

Also, even if you bought the house in your name you should see the laws in your state.  You husband may have some right to that, so you may want a post nuptial agreement or talk to an attorney.

Honestly, you should go to therapy and couples counseling (maybe do this on occasional date night or when day off as a nurse) and decide if its important for you to stay.  You can't change a person.  This is who he is, he will put his band first.  Are you ok with that?

Also, if you get divorced it may not be 50/50.  Most women I know who are divorced watch the child more than the husband, so keep that in mind.  [/quote]

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