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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have the same problem. Usually he needed my help or wanted me to do something right then. My problem was I would drop everything and do it. Now I say, firmly and sometimes in an annoyed tone, I will when I’m finished or I’m doing something but I can later. He also would take up space like he’ll need to do something in the kitchen as I’m doing something and expect me to move. I now say, let me finish this first. He does not object to this.

My take is that he just expects to take up the space whenever he needs it, his needs come first, he’s not interrupting, he’s just doing the next thing, whereas as a woman I learned to adapt, move aside and be amenable. I think this kind of adaptability never occurred to him but as I said, now that I say something, he goes along with it.[/quote]

Same.  And I think it’s ADHD combined with his internal self-centeredness that is more prevalent in men - simply because women are conditioned to think of others first.

Being nice about it didn’t work, he just got hurt, so now I mostly push back in a jokey way - he’ll ask if I know when a store closes and I’ll ask Alexa in front of  him, or point out he has a clock on his computer, so doesn’t need to ask me the time.  Occasionally if he ask if I can look up some fact or detail he is also capable of looking up on the phone in his hand and I’ll just say “no”.  [/quote]

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