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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve only been to one viewing/open casket affair, and I definitely see the appeal.  The person you are mourning is right there as if sleeping peacefully.  It’s very real.  Not as real as when you’re designated to hold a pet in your arms when it’s put down, but real.  Shirking from real is a huge part of what’s wrong with us as a society.  It’s what causes some children of elderly parents to violate the golden rule and warehouse them in environments that they themselves would never be happy and then barely visit them.  So F’ed up.[/quote]

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Exactly this. Supposed grown adults are now “uncomfortable,” find it “creepy.”  Grow up. You do realize you’ll be in that box yourself one day, right?

OP it is based in the concept that our earthly bodies are no longer needed. From ashes to ashes and dust to dust.

Perhaps your life would be more “comfortable” if you actually face and accept this basic premise. [/quote]

I specifically don't like viewings because I find the unrealistic. I think it's weird to dress up a corpse, fill it with fluids to keep it looking "fresh", apply makeup, etc. The viewings I've been to, I did find it creepy, but not because it made me uncomfortable. Because what I saw in the casket did not help me process the death at all, and felt disconnected from the idea of death or dying. I am comfortable facing death. I think it's weird to face this dressed up corpse made to look like it's "peacefully sleeping." Plus the corpse itself is not my loved one. My loved one is gone. I'd rather spend my time facing that reality than stand around a room making awkward small talk and pretending the embalmed corpse in the room is a person when it isn't.

Accepting and processing death does not require a viewing. Do it if it's what the dead person wants and the family believes in it, but I think a lot of us get nothing out of it and are skipping it because we have other ways to grieve and confront death and this just isn't one of them. [/quote]

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