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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm 56 and am starting to see the appeal of 55+ communities.  My partner has always had the mantra that living amongst young people keeps you young at heart, but I don't buy it anymore.   Most of our neighborhood is 35 and younger, and they look right through us.   [/quote]

Yes, we are going to get more serious about finding a good over 55 place as I head toward late 50s and DH is in his 60s. We have seen firsthand what the age in place and determination to be among young people in your home does. My mother thinks she is a national treasure as her younger neighbors avoid her because she won't treat her mood swings. She also expects us to be there at the drop of a hat and she doesn't want friends her age, but younger people can't take all her complaining. We are going to make a life for ourselves in a one level place, keep working at least part time, keep making more friends and figure out what CCRC people move to as we approach 70/75. We want our kids to enjoy visiting us and not feel like we are a burdon and miserable all the time.[/quote]
+1 sounds like us.

My FIL also didn't want to be "old", but his interests and the way he spoke was from another time.  They resisted going into a retirement community even though they needed to as they had a large two story home and large yard that they couldn't take care of.  He ended up having alzheimers, so it was too late to make a move. After he passed, we all kept telling my MIL to move, but she also resisted until she fell twice, once blacked out. She finally moved out to a bungalow, but now has been in the hospital for 2 weeks, and they don't think she will come out of the hospital. She's lived in that bungalow for all of 15 months.

They are/were super stubborn, to a fault. I told DH we are not doing what they did, and he agreed.

My parents have lived in their little one story condo for 20 years, and they can absolutely age in place.[/quote]

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