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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can see why he's sad. That schedule would make me sad too. Can you move the double shift to one weekday so the whole family can spend Saturday together? That's what I would do. I work PT too but it's all during the weekdays.[/quote]

Op here. Not possible right now. The FT person works 8-4 pm Monday - Friday. I think during the holidays it's been hard because they don't have activities. On both Saturday and Sunday, they have an activity..not soccer or anything like that which I would attend. I am off Friday and Sunday evenings starting from 4pm..i may get a nanny cam so I can interact with them from my phone when they are watching TV..I know they watch a lot of TV when I am away. I take them out more than dh so I think they like that [/quote]

Can I ask why you're doing this?  If you can't afford quality childcare, then that's understandable, and you need to be honest about that with your kid.
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Some people can afford "quality childcare" but they would rather do it themselves. It sounds straight toward me. She wants to work PT and this is the schedule that allows it. Lots of families do this. [/quote]

Her husband is providing crappy childcare.  If that's what they can afford, then that's understandable, but if she's doing it because she thinks that her kids, particularly her schoolage kid, being ignored all weekend is better than having her younger kid in daycare, she's wrong.  If she worked full time days would it make up the difference so she could afford a high quality daycare, and be able to see both kids on weekends?

I say this as a former SAHM.  I think SAH can have value for kids.  But, not at this cost.  [/quote]

You sound dramatic. Their kids go to an activity each weekend day and watch TV. What do you expect high-quality weekend care to be anyway? You don't have enough information to say it's crappy childcare. [/quote]

OP says that one of the kids is too young for school, and that her DH isn't "hands on in any way".

The fact that it's a weekend is irrelevant.  If you would be OK with a daycare provider who didn't interact with the kids in any way, then that's fine.  [/quote]

Too young for kindergarten. She didn't say anything about the dad refusing to interact. You're making stuff up. It's sounds like he's not hands on with cooking or housework so she works PT because FT and the cooking and housework would be three jobs. [/quote]

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