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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. No I have not talked to them about how it makes me or them feel. Thank you for that input. I will sit down with them and talk about our feelings as well as theirs. I am also sad to sell. So many amazing memories here and longest I have ever lived any where but we are excited for the next chapter and of course our next home will be their home too. No matter where I live, my kids are welcomed with open doors[/quote]

For the moment, perhaps you should put your emotions on the backburner and acknowledge theirs. This is hard for a lot of folks. DC's college BFF now going through this - understands why parents needed to downsize from a very HCOL city to a less expensive town about an hour away. But it still hurts - she comes home from college and knows no one, absolutely no one. [/quote]

My parents moved halfway across the country when I was in college studying abroad. I didn't get to say bye to the house they built for me (I was the youngest, they needed more space). I got over it pretty darn quickly. I visited my childhood hometown occasionally and stayed with friends until eventually I lost touch with most people and those I didn't lose touch with ended up spread out all over the country. OP's kids won't even be in college anymore when their parents move - they won't be coming home and staying home for long periods of time anymore now that they are adults.

You sound like the person who lives her life vicariously through her children. Get a life, you are going to need one now that your children are grown.
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Empathy is dead?[/quote]
When t comes to whiny 21+ year olds, absolutely.[/quote]

Really? That seems the age when you truly want to help them lock down thar ability if you haven’t yet.

It’s possible to keep with the plan and listen to their 21 year old selves work through these emotions. Seems basic. [/quote]

Oh my god, stop babying your adult children. Wow. Just Wow.[/quote]

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