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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As someone who is in an Asian and white family, I am super tired of Asian judgement about food. Just as my Asian family would never serve everything we have at a banquet or big family meal on a regular weeknight, a white family would never serve everything you’re listing at one meal. And it isn’t fair to demean basics or simpler parts of other people’s cuisine as “kid food”- just because children only want to eat very simple macaroni and cheese doesn’t mean that’s somehow inferior to the plain white rice that my child wants to eat.

Just say what you really want to say in these posts: that you feel superior to other people because of…your food? Your race? Something else? I don’t know but the undertone of your post reads as nasty and judgey, and I say that as an Asian mom.[/quote]

It's very disordered too. This attitude that certain foods are fundamentally bad and reflect some kind of moral failing is just a recipe for an eating disorder.

And I say that as a parent if a kid who is ultra-picky but in a way OP would mostly approve of-- she never eats "kid foods" like macaroni and cheese or chicken nuggets (does not eat meat at all), and she wouldn't eat the party foods OP lists. She mostly eats rice, beans or lentils, Greek yogurt, and fruit (not a veggie fan though I can sneak them into bean and lentil dishes). We've worked with a dietician because her narrow palate is caused by being very sensitive to textures and smells, and one thing she emphasizes a lot is not to label foods as good or bad, and to encourage her to learn to tolerate other people's food even if she personally finds it unappealing (not to eat it, but to be able to be near people eating food that smells different from what she likes and not to criticize or comment). DD isn't diagnosed with an eating disorder (she technically eats enough foods to not qualify for ARFID though it's basically being treated the same way, but we've been told that assigning moral judgment to food is a huge red flag and perhaps the most important thing to address in order to prevent even more disordered eating in the future.

But OP is imposing that attitude on her kids from the start. If any of them deal with disordered eating at all in the future, this is going to be a huge problem. It's a very counterproductive attitude.[/quote]

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