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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am, but it's not just the house, it's two barns as well.

I would remind yourself there are companies you can hire to do this work. Take a deep breath! It's okay. You don't have to do this alone.

They're not necessarily going to be capable of doing what you want them to do, even if they wanted to. The loss of energy and decision-making ability is real, even if they seem cognitively okay during your visits. And it's really not worth wrecking a visit fighting over it-- you won't win, because they're not capable of doing what you want them to.

I would start by taking out of the house anything that actually belongs to you or your DH. Any old childhood stuff, stuff that's in storage, etc. Get that gone. Then, anything that's belonging to a sibling. Take it out of the house and give your sibling a reasonable amount of time to come get it, FedEx it to them, or you trash it. [b]Then, see what your elders are willing to part with, and make it easier for them by offering an (imaginary) perfect recipient and doing the legwork yourself. Y[/b]es, your hoard of recyclable margarine containers will be PERFECT for my friend who is an elementary school art teacher! She will be so thrilled! Oh the joy those children will feel. Like that.[/quote]

Finding the right place to donate is a huge barrier, for me included. Really, it doesn't matter if something goes to the women's shelter or your kid or Goodwill or freecycle or the trash can or to someone who going to sell it on ebay, but people can face inertia trying to do the "right thing". Getting it out the front door is the important thing.

I love this podcaster  https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/2014/03/my-changing-view-of-stuff-and-value/[/quote]

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