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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just a quick update- the GI doc actually suggested that the endoscopy wasn’t a good idea and I wholeheartedly agree.  There’s no active bleed and I think if we put her under anesthesia she’d be gone forever.  They did give her Haldol last night when she was sundowning which irritates me to no end.  They had a sitter with her when I came in this morning. The main doc was super pissed about the Haldol.  But that’s what they do with problem patients at night.

We’re hoping to get her to rehab for the knee in the next few days- the Xmas holiday really messed everything up.  But she needs to be 24 hours free of a sitter before she can go, or I’ll have to hire one at the rehab which I most likely will have to do.

Not sure the next steps.  Return her to assisted living and hire a helper (but I think she’ll run out of money at some point), memory care but I’ll probably still have to hire a helper?  God I wish there was a handbook.[/quote]

OP at this point your mom running out of money could be a blessing esp if she’s a DC resident. DC has a great Medicaid program if your mom has the income to qualify. I would seriously consider meeting with an elder law attorney to discuss medicaid asset protection. Medicaid has a five year look back but if you plan correctly, in 5 years she can have the income to qualify for medicaid. My mother has a 24 hour nurse AND aide and lives in our home via medicaid (she’s a functional quadriplegic because of strokes—long story). I made decisions listening to doctors and effectively prolonged her life when I was clear with Drs that she didn’t want that. Anyway, I trust in God that He’s got his hand in this so it is what it is. Medicaid has enabled my mom to have the absolute best quality of life by living at home with us. It is disruptive, yes, (and we have a basement in law suite) but far better than the drama of her living in a SNF, trust me I know. In my mom’s case she really had no money so that was great.

A friend in Florida and one in VA did the medicaid asset protection route. One is in memory care and the other was in a nursing home before she died. Look into it![/quote]

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