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[quote=Anonymous]I have posted before on here, but as someone who has seen so much discord and pain from family inequality I will make one last plea. You don't know what families are somehow still socializing together, but are a few steps from fights and even estrangement. I have watched too many families that got along well enough dissolve either from unequal inheritance from a parent or a relative. It doesn't make it better that you are alive while doing this. People can throw around words like "selfish" which is the favorite word of abusive people, to say everyone should just accept things, but you should not do anything to cause that final straw that disrupts a family. No matter how much you think you know about inside dynamics about how they were raised and choices they made, you don't know it all. You can judge the person who gets angry all you want, but you also need to assumes responsibility for your own choice to be unequal. So do whatever you want, but if you don't even offer equality and it does cause problems you are hurting those grandchildren and possibly causing issues with cousins. You can say this it is projection and intellectualize all you want and say the parent must have been selfish, but if your act was the last straw, it's on you. Save your arguments for a financial advisor or a family therapist who deals with these things. You don't need to convince me of anything.[/quote]

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