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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are a family of 4 and DH and I both work FT. I cook dinner for everyone 28 days per month and we get take out once night every other week. I also make everyone's breakfast most mornings unless the kids just want a bagel or yogurt or something else easy.

This morning, we've been up since 6am and kids ate then. DH and I haven't eaten yet.[b] He just spent 30 mins in the kitchen sautéing vegetables and making a big omlette with a side of fresh fruit. Then proceeded to sit down and eat it all by himself, never even asking if I'd like something.[/b]
How can people be like this?[/quote]

Go to him now and say: "This morning you cooked yourself a big omelette and took time to make it with fresh vegetable and serve yourself fruit too. You never once asked me if I'd like some. Next time please cook for us both-- it's as easy to do your omelet for two as for one. And 'next time' will be tomorrow because, surprise, you're on breakfast duty." Then tell him you've totaled how many meals you cook each month and that ends now; you're creating a schedule for when it's his turn to cook. Not asking. Presenting a schedule.

I don't get coming to post here instead of just saying, as he sat down to eat, "Looks great. Where's mine?"

Stop the mom-does-all-cooking nonsense. I don't care if he's got some super busy job. He can at a minimum be a polite human being and this morning he was not. I suspect this is a habit with him, isn't it, OP? [/quote]

See, this is the problem with DCUM people who post scripts. This is quite possibly the dumbest advice and script I have seen here in weeks. Telling you to get dictatorial and huffy isn’t going to accomplish anything at all except make you like insane. Especially with the bean counting.

Better to just say you’d like to revisit the division of meal preparation. Not “I have decreed things will be different around here.”

Jesus. 
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Are you the person who posted about hating "scripts" on another thread? So what do YOU suggest OP do specifically  other than "revisit" things? Revisit means nothing. You're only here to bi**h about others' posts, not to help OP.  [/quote]

Revisiting involves a conversation and a discussion, not a directive. Are you slow? Or being deliberately obtuse?

Do you have a lot of conflict in your life? You probably do if you approach things like that ridiculously stupid script. It’s little wonder you are so dysfunctional.[/quote]

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