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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stop being so accommodating. Establish strict rules and boundaries. Make her do chores. She needs structure. 
So she gets mad. Let her be mad. Actions need to have consequences. 
Stop smiling and nodding. That is the path of least resistance leading nowhere. 
Do you have any bargaining chips to get her to the psychiatrist? [/quote]

Disagree with this poster.  The smiling and nodding is okay when you are dealing with mental illness in someone.[/quote]

OP here. I just recognize some of the comments as baiting. I'm not going to engage. If she thinks I should go out out and clear brush off the shed, I'll just smile and say good idea and move on. If she points out cat vomit on the rug, I just say thank you for pointing it out and clean it up.

It's sometimes hard to tell where a teen/young adult's behavior ends and mental illness behavior begins. I mean, most teens I know wouldn't stop to clean up cat vomit if they came across it. Whether or not they'd point it out to a parent like some sort of complaint/accusation that the house is disgusting is another question. THAT'S the behavior that's concerning to me.

And to those saying I'm harping on her negative attributes, I'm only doing that to illustrate what I'm dealing with. She's also a brilliant, charming, articulate soul who's a fantastic writer who is extremely active in activities at school. It's just I worry because I see many of the same patterns she exhibited when younger: A wide, but thin network of friends she seems to lose if anything moves past superficial interaction. A tendency to text entire paragraphs to people excoriating them for slights/behaviors she doesn't like, or if they don't do what she wants them to do (she has sent these to me, her mother and her sister through the years). High conflict within organizations she's joined (marching band, sorority, school newspaper). Recently we took a walk and she asked about her younger cousins, who I had just visited. I made a remark that one of them was brilliant, probably the smartest in the entire extended family and she took actual, legit offense at that.

I guess I"ll seek out a counselor for myself. My instinct here is to not take the bait when it's offered (although sometimes if I'm tired and I feel attacked I'll give in).

My other daughter doesn't exhibit these behaviors. But she also can only take her sister in small doses.

Thankfully they're at different colleges.

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