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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The going back and forth was too much. He would not buy clothes. I was sick of buying the same thing for two kids for two houses. Divorced 4 years. We are going to start nesting: I can’t switch the toys and clothes any more.

I would prefer separate houses if he would buy stuff. He won’t. Kids did not mind switching. [/quote]

Why are you switching toys and clothes? I'm assuming the kids are at least school aged (if divorced 4 years already). That's old enough to understand that toys stay at the house. Send them in whatever clothes he sent them to you in. He can buy clothes at his house. If he refuses to clothe his children, then it's time to speak to your lawyer-perhaps he needs less parenting time.

No way would I start 'nesting' because the fool won't buy clothes for his kids.[/quote]

My ex is an attorney. Not with the fight. [b]He will not buy what they need[/b]. No one can force him to do that. They don’t want to leave certain toys behind. I feel like I am taking care of two houses rather than one. Nesting will be much easier with less communication and no switching…we did it temporarily before and it was far easier. Two houses don’t work in my situation. [/quote]

Being an atty doesn't mean he can get away with child neglect. Do the kids wear the same outfit for the days they are with him? Like, they have nothing there? Or, do they have clothes there but just not ones you prefer. If he truly refuses to provide them with necessities, then you need to speak to your lawyer about that. As far as the toys, either have the kids leave the toys at your house, or let them know that they are responsible for bringing home whatever toys they take to their dad's house.

Frankly, I'd much rather buy a few extra clothes and toys than have my exdh nesting in my home, and we're amicable![/quote]

I would rather nest than get constant text messages from my kids about where the clothes they want to wear are or get constant text messages from him that he can’t find anything in the house. Any supplies for their activities and those have to be carded back-and-forth as well and I’m sick of buying things for two houses because he just won’t buy them. Sometimes I bill them bill him for them but I’m still getting constant messages from him or from the kids about their stuff and I’m sick of handling all the stuff. Easier to nest. I’ve been divorced for years and it’s not going to get better so I might as well make it as easy for myself as possible and admit the nesting is really the better situation for everyone involved in this particular scenario. 
My stress level is through the roof with the switching and keeping track of crap into places and buying things for two places. It’s just too much to deal with. Easier for the adults to rotate than the kids. Someone is always forgetting something somewhere and it’s just too much.[/quote]

You sound like the problem.  If the kids text you tell them to go ask Dad.  If he cannot find something, tell him to order or go buy a new one.  You are enabling him.  [/quote]

I know I am enabling him. But it is easier to do that than to have a fallout and more stress. He is 50. He is not changing. He is not someone who is 30 who is capable of change. Two houses don't work. One is best for the kids and my sanity.[/quote]

Then stop complaining.  [/quote]

I was not complaining. Read the thread. I was stating that sometimes it does not work to switch back and forth because sometimes the person you are dealing with makes it too difficult. It sucks either way, but I am taking the least worst option after doing the switch thing for years and the stress just not improving. [/quote]

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