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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No judgment please, so step aside Gen X.

Elder millennial here who was sold (literally) the American dream. You have no other choice but to go to college and you will take out exorbitant loans. Marry in the Midwest by mid-20s. 3 kids by early 30s. On the back of highly taxed retirement withdrawal, somehow put a down payment on a decent home and now house and student loan poor. No chance for college savings for kids.

Add unhappy in marriage, blaming one another for ending up in *this* place. From coming to age in the era of 9/11, graduating college in an economic recession, attempting hope in Obama era to be shattered with Trump. Trying to raise a young family and being slammed with a pandemic. Everything has been terrible, silver lining coming only in the love I have for my kids. Dark cloud over everything post-Nintendo in the basement with my siblings - 1995.

Will a divorce be the final straw? Are elder millennials f**ked forever or am I the special kind that was hit with it all?[/quote]

Not judging, as you have requested. But your post feels like recap of you taking stock and [b]comparing yourself to some unattainable ideal. [/b]There’s no such thing. Comparing yourself to less fortunate, like few posters suggest is also useless. Might make you feel better for few minutes but that’s it. So my advice, stop comparing yourself to others, or some idea of happiness. You are in charge of your life. If you have to divorce, do that. If not, and it’s just a whine, see it for what it is. Financial struggles make everything look worse than it is. Recognize that. Then assess your marriage from objective pov. [/quote]

Anyone feel like OP is probably comparing her poor husband to some unattainable ideal, and that is likely a major source of OP’s problem?

You are sabotaging your marriage, OP.[/quote]

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