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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hate these posts. I don’t want to sound like a “pick me” girl but unless your husband is abusive, very selfish, or possesses some major personality flaw, just have sex! I lost my libido while breastfeeding and I’m chronically tired from a toddler that doesn’t sleep still but I make sure I have sex 1x a week at minimum which is usually all I manage at this point. Men aren’t horny teens for wanting a basic human desire. So I’m sorry you are in a sexless marriage and you shouldn’t have to compromise on that point if you are a decent husband. Start marriage counseling and work towards adding it back into your routines (because that is what is becomes for a lot of women in middle age). [/quote]

I don't think people understand the difference between having sex when you're not particularly in the mood but okay with it, and having sex when you really, really don't want to. It's an entirely different feeling and the consequences of having sex when you feel that way are not good.

And just like men aren't horny teens for wanting a basic human desire, women are not heartless, cruel b****es for not wanting to have sex unless they are up for it. They aren't terrible for not wanting to have sex when they are pushed to the limit with life demands, extremely depressed, or frustrated at their husbands because of the objectively wrong things their husbands are dong. Both sides are (likely) valid and forcing yourself to have sex is not a compromise, it is giving up your bodily autonomy for the sake of someone else's happiness. Again this is not the same as having sex with you're basically okay with it. That is fine. [/quote]

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