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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, have a bunch of your friends/neighbors recently done remodels or something? 
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You mean in the last 10 years since we bought the house? I mean, yes I guess, it’s a pretty common activity in UMC areas with older homes. [/quote]

Right. And have they regaled your spouse with stories of wild cost overruns, miserable timeline overruns, flake contractors, discovering problems midstream, and massive disruption - maybe including needing to move out temporarily when that wasn’t part of the renovation plan, either? 
Ours certainly have an it’s definitely made an impression on me, enough so that i will not remodel for the sport of it - and what you are talking about is a sport remodel - during our already insanely busy years with the kids at home. 
A decade ago I too thought we’d remodel in a few years but now I feel differently. A decade ago I would have said that I was open to the idea of building a home from scratch! And then I saw everyone else go through it, including extreme financial stress, moving out, brink of divorce, “never again” comments. 
I’m not saying that’s what would happen to you guys - and it sounds like this rift with your husband is about larger issues, honestly - but I can completely understand him changing his mind or dragging his feet. [/quote]

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