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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah I’m not poking my nose, DH wants to do this for his family, it’s our choice as a family. Not mine. It’s also the most cost effective choice for us.

This is what we have chosen to do, my initial question was “it doesn’t seem like they are totally into it, so should I offer an out?”

I didn’t ask if you felt the gift was appropriate. We believe as a family experiences are more important than someone sending a list of gifts [/quote

[quote]We have chosen to do family experiences for DH’s parents and siblings (and their families).[/quote]

There's a lot of what you believe and what you have chosen, but your "we" doesn't seem to include the family you want to spend time with. You know, once a year.

You also seem to think that the only way to know what someone wants is to have a list. And sure, I ask for lists, but I can also think of things people would like because I talk to them.

I am sorry you feel piled on, but I think the one family is doing their best to let you know that they don't want to do this but they also don't want to hurt your feelings. Most of my siblings and I still go to my parents' for Christmas, and we spend time together because like you, that's how we make connections. But no one is paying for anyone else, and no one is scheduling team-building activities. There are some things we all like to do, but there's no enforced fun. [/quote]

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