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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What’s the absolute worst that happens from it? DC’s room is packed with too much stuff for a few weeks until you clean it out?

It’s one day, one pile of things. A month from now you can donate it all if needed.

I’d feel differently if we lived in a tiny apartment, but DC has his own room so plenty of space to hold kiddy junk.[/quote]
The worst that happens:
The gift giver asks to see it for the next two years every time they come to visit, and then throw a fit when you've trashed it. (My MIL)
The child cries every time you try to get rid of something? (my kids)
Mom is completely overwhelmed with the amount of clutter in the house and sick of picking shit up every night? (me)
Kids are spoiled and come to expect it?
Environmental reasons - total waste and plastic is ruining our world?

These are the reasons I don't like it. Sure, it's not the end of the world but usually it's the mom getting stuck with dealing with the disposal or pick up of it. It's really sucked the Christmas joy for me and made it about dealing with shit for a couple weeks afterwards. 
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How old is your kid? Because soon enough they won't play with toys. And get rid of the toys when they aren't looking, not right in front of them.[/quote]
I have 7.l of various ages.  Im perfectly capable, but why can’t we just have a conversation that it’s not welcome? My MIL is broke AND will ask me to get out a game she gave a year later. Just stop already. It’s gross. [/quote]

I suspect you are stressed because you have 7 children, not because your MIL gives them more gifts than you would like.[/quote]
Well then you’d “suspect” wrong. Overconsumption is gross. All these people gonna jump on me for having 7 kids and how terrible it is for the environment are now defending massive amounts of unwanted toys. [/quote]

I mean, 5 gifts for one or two children is very different than 5 gifts each for 7 children.  No wonder you feel overwhelmed.  Just donate all the gifts, the end.  Then they are no longer unwanted, and MIL can throw her hissy fit if she chooses--that's her choice.  Or make the kids trade out old stuff for the new stuff. Or say all their toys must fit in these X baskets or on these Y shelves, and let them pick what stays and goes.

No one is saying tons of stuff is great, we're just saying it's not worth energy to be upset over when it's an easy problem to resolve.[/quote]

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