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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Spinoff from the libido thread. What is normal in the 35 and older man range? Can most guys still go multiple rounds? How long can they last?  How much sex do they want? I know there is no one size fits all answer but just am curious because I am coming out of a long relationship and am wondering what to expect.  [/quote]

It’s the ‘20s. Men’s libidos in the 2020s have drastically reduced much faster than ever.

Many experts states this has to do with gratification from pornography and wild scenarios seen in pornography.

Also many drugs, such as Propecia, finasteride, antidepressants, etc. allegedly may have libido destroying elements.

I’d say it’s possibly more typical firm in his 40s to become asexual than not.
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I’m a 52 YO male and this hits the nail on the head for me.  I’ve always been a high libido, or maybe sexual person in general.  When single and dating girlfriends it didn’t seem like a problem at all.  Most young women in the early part of a relationship were just as high drive and exploratory as I was.

Once married, my wife was really only interested in once a week, only when planned and scheduled ahead of time, only on the bed and only certain positions (no oral, etc).  This was pretty tough for me.  I felt like I was suffocating and when we did have it once a week it was over so quick, because of the buildup, that its almost like it never happened and then I’d have to wait another week.  This caused quite a few discussions and disagreements with no resolution.  Also, I have zero interest in cheating or going outside my marriage.

Pron became an outlet for me.  Eventually, I’d surf until I found a scene that really turned me on and would finish to it.  It takes a while to find that scene and meanwhile, your brain is just getting bombarded with dopamine.  All of this adds up to the dopamine receptors in your brain getting very descensitized.

Once you’re used to that, its hard to get excited by a scheduled session with someone who feels like they’re doing you a favor just to do the same 2-3 positions that you’ve done over and over for years while they tell you about things you need to do around the house or whoever it is they’re fighting with at work that week.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my wife dearly. She is a wonderful person and is probably a 1 percenter when it comes to nice body and fitness, but I almost never get to see her in a sexy light.  She loves drab, faded and amorphus clothes, doesn’t like to shower on the weekend and only gets fixed up if shes going out with friends.  Anytime she has an item of clothing and she realizes it accentuates her figure shes going to donate it or throw it away.

In addition to pron use, I think caffeine (vasoconstrictor) and stress have contributed to my inability to get it up without a prescription.[/quote]

I'm the PP who mentioned the prudishness of professional UMC women and this is a prime example of what I'm talking about. I'm sure this situation plays itself out in lots of marriages. I bet this guy's wife thinks he's "low drive."[/quote]

I’m the PP and I don’t want to blame my wife.  Also, she doesn’t think I’m low drive, in fact, she probably still thinks I’m high drive - which I am relative to hers.  It was my choice to use pron but I wish I had known more about what it could do to you.  But who knows, without it I may not still be married.

Also, my wife’s perspective on what she has to bring to the table in the bedroom is probably a direct result of her young single days.  Like I said, she’s got a pretty ridiculous body and guys were falling all over her.  So her perspective “why are you complaining when there’s a line of guys who would bend over backwards just to be with me”[/quote]

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