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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, here is a different perspective.

This friend watched you and your husband get married and have kids in your 20s when he was still going to bars and taking last minute trips to Vegas. [b]He watched your lives get fuller, more stable, and more meaningful while his romantic relationships stayed surface level and his life lacked true purpose. [/b]He also watched you parent multiple kids at an age when few of his friends had kids. He likely watched you become more confident with each subsequent kid and as the years went on.

Now he's finally settled down and having a kid. And you guys are the veteran parents who have been through it ALL already. He may be trying to impress you, trying to compete with you, afraid you'll judge him, or just worried you'll dump a bunch of advice on him. His decision to assure you he's got it all figured out and there are no issues whatsoever is unsurprising. Who wants to be the total newbie at something their friend is an expert veteran at?

He wants you to see him as a peer, and not to look down on him as a first time parent making first time parent mistakes and having first time parent problems. The more you can reassure him that he's part of the parent club no matter what, and that you won't condescend or criticize, the more likely he is to loosen up and tell you when he does have challenges (which he will, everyone does).  But right now, I think he's afraid for you to see him that way.[/quote]

LOL. You actually believe the BS you just typed, don’t you? Astonishing.

(and yes, I’m a parent, so don’t bother with the predictable clapback)[/quote]

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