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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have two opinions on this.  If my kid say wants to pursue a career in comedy or acting or a musician or painting...well it all comes down to work ethic.  You would be shocked when you read biographies of successful artists that underlying their success was an incredible work ethic.  We all know Malcolm Gladwell with the 10,000 hours and the Beatles...but Dave Grohl's mom essentially said the same thing...she only let him quit high school because he would gig 2-3 shows a day and was always working at his craft.  Taylor Swift same thing, walking up and down Nashville row as a 12-year old, maintaining cue cards on every record and radio executive she met so that she would remember their wives, kids, etc..  Heck, even the Motley Crue book will tell you how hard that crazy group of "traditional" f**k ups would work to make their band a success.

So, if I had a kid that just didn't "talk" about it, but actually did it...I would worry, but I would let them pursue their passion.  However, if the true work ethic just is not there, we as parents need to be willing to give some blunt talk, and perhaps redirect them to a career that maybe is passion-adjacent, but pays the bills.  I wish I had the answer on this because even passion-adjacent can "pay the bills" but not much more.  Alternatively, you talk to them and try to focus on their interests vs. the industry.

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Great post. This is/was DH's cousin. Well, the opposite of Swift. Wanted to pursue the arts during the day but return home to the comforts of what they had in childhood. Ditto for the husband. They did work, including one of them as a server, but they also they wanted to travel for six weeks to three months at a shot and didn't understand why the parents wouldn't cover their rent while they were away - let alone every month. "We wouldn't have to put in as many hours if we didn't have to pay our rent."[/quote]

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